Tip 1. Whenever in doubt choose self-care first 💛
When we choose to make our self-care needs our first priority, we are taking practical steps towards building a strong sense of self-worth and healthy self-esteem. This doesn’t mean we stop doing the things we normally would, however this gives rise for us to make better choices in everyday life situations.
Tip 2. Write out sticky notes or diarise your self-care reminders each week 💜
Writing down or diarising a few self-care reminders each week helps us to not only remember to take care of ourselves, but it also acts as a reflective tool and as a conscious reminder of what positive things we have achieved and done for ourselves that week. This is great to look back on when or if we are feeling a little out of sorts and not feeling quite ourselves. I find it acts as a form of encouragement reminding myself to not give up and to keep going, no matter how I am feeling.
Tip 3. Practice making self-care part of your everyday routine 💚
Making self-care part of our daily routine, will allow you to form self-care as a habit. A new habit is approximately created after twenty eight days, once a habit is formed we start to complete this task without thinking about it and this once ‘new task’ has now become part of our everyday routine without even thinking about it. We want practices of self-care to become a habit because that means we are rewiring our subconscious to move towards practices of self-love instead of self-hate and self-loathing which is what many of us have known and felt.
Tip 4. Self-care includes daily housekeeping 🧡
Doing a little bit of housekeeping each day ensures we are taking care of ourselves, even through the mundane tasks of housework and cleaning, we are choosing to put our emotional needs first. It may seem odd to think that general house hold duties may have such a positive impact on our emotions, but it absolutely does. A good friend of mine once told me her mum use to say a messy room equals a messy head. Well I am a big believer in keeping the home tidy and easy to manage as this has always had a major impact on my mental fragility especially if I am struggling.
Tip 5. Plan for the worst ❤️
When I say plan for the worst I don’t mean think and believe the worst will happen, I mean plan as though you are having a bad week. What is going to make you feel safe and nurtured? Now write out some things that will help take care of your most basic needs, be it meals, sleep and bedtimes, do you have clean clothes for the week? Have you got enough heat or blankets so you can have a restful sleep? Have you cooked a few extra meals and put them in the freezer so you don’t have to cook when you’re feeling sad, depressed or tired? Planning ahead has had such a positive impact on my life, I think it is probably the one thing that has saved me especially when I have had weeks of not being able to cope emotionally and I still need to go to work, when all I really wanted to do was collapse and give up.
All Words Written by Evelyn Wayde © 2019 – 2020